[venuselectrificata]

you want my hot take for the evening? people who dont like complainers just havent been exposed to good complaining, and will never know if they themselves have an inborn talent for the art of kvetching

[venuselectrificata]

good complaining is some combination of a) funny, b) animated and theatrical, c) insightful re: human foibles, d) inquiry into social trends and norms.it must ALWAYS involve at least a small degree of self awareness, and is often used to build camaraderie and maintain relationships.

source: im jewish

[actuallyhiding]

The Love, Simon trailer but instead of Simon writing “dear blue, I’m just like you” he goes “bitch me too. the fuck”

[kerfufflies]

[actual-fairy]

me: big city driving scarey ):

me on country backroads: *takes a sharp curve going 90 mph* yeehaw

[lance-cubano]

once love, simon opens the cinematic doors for lgbt rom coms it’s over for hetero bitches

[lance-cubano]

just found out that people are boycotting this movie because the author is straight…….honestly if y’all let this movie flop i’m coming for everyone’s throats! no mercy! this is such a fake woke agenda! love, simon doesn’t deserve this! if y’all wanted to boycott an lgbt movie call me by your name was right there but y’all let that bitch prosper! 

[sift]

“One. Do not promise when you’re happy.
Two. When you are angry, do not respond.
Three. Do not decide when you’re sad.”

— (via flame)

[lionessclub]

We live in a really weird era of feminism in which we’re not allowed to criticise any oppressive constructs/industries (marriage, beauty/make up, porn, etc) just because some women enjoy them.

I’m really sick of of opinions and discussions being shut down with “it’s not oppressive if we like it! don’t you know that some women choose to do these things?”

well, heck. don’t you know that  men/the patriarchy have a lot to gain in keeping us content and complicit in our own oppression?

[sisterresister]

I think our generation of feminists have lost the idea of there being an oppressive structure (patriarchy) which moulds and controls the actions of individual women. So when we say “High heels are oppressive, they are a way of controlling women’s bodies, preventing us from being able to run and deforming our feet” a lot of women hear this as “Women who wear high heels are all stupid and not proper feminists. They are gullible stooges of patriarchy!” This is because Western women have been brought up in a culture that emphasizes individualism and personal choices and ignores the coercive social and cultural structures and hierarchies within which those choices are made.

The criticism is not of individual women and the question is not whether individual women do or don’t choose to wear high heels. The criticism is of the patriarchal system that coerces women into wearing high heels and that denies women a genuinely free choice as to whether or not to wear high heels.

[muslimfeminist]

Hey maybe some of you will take what I say seriously after hearing some other people saying it!
To be honest most people dont even wait around to hear that you’re criticising institutions before they start talking about themselves and how it’s empowering

[uirgiliana]

“Western women have been brought up in a culture that emphasizes individualism and personal choices and ignores the coercive social and cultural structures and hierarchies within which those choices are made.”

Exactly!  We as individuals are understandably biased toward believing that the choices we make are made entirely freely, without being influenced by societal pressures.  However, that’s just not true.  Every choice we make is profoundly influenced by the set of values and priorities we were brought up with and by the society in which we live.  Every action we take is either taken to stay within that framework or in deliberate rejection of it.  Either way, those societal values are always involved in our decision-making, however unconsciously. 

In an ideal world, yes, a woman would be able to decide what she wanted to wear, whether she wanted to shave her legs, how much makeup she wanted to put on, etc. as an individual making a free choice based on her own comfort and her aesthetic preferences.  But that is not the world we live in!  These sorts of choices are influenced by societal pressures both consciously – women, at least in the US, are told that we must shave our legs in order not just to be attractive, but not to be actively gross – and unconsciously, in that our personal aesthetic preferences are themselves very much influenced by the norms and values of the societies in which we live. 

tl;dr:  it’s not actually possible to make decisions like whether or not to wear heels without being influenced by societal norms, whether that decision is made in accordance with or rejection of those norms. 

[pentauroi]

The eye

[voicequirk]

anyone else in this thread a slut for garlic

[pastabot]

i know i say this all the time but those old guys with candles and night caps and pajamas knew exactly what the hell was going down